Am I Good Fit For You

The following are insights and perspectives from my experiences that may resonate and support individuals experiencing an interruption to their mental health and relationship dynamics. Also, for partners, parents, extended family members and friends with equal consideration and regard of their supportive roles and interruptions to their relationship dynamic experiences. Suggested considerations and self-care that may provide a window of insights and understanding into the inner worlds of others experiences and behaviour.

A former Service User.  A “label” given to individuals having spent time in hospital under clinical supervision and directive. Just for the record, a “label” I was on the receiving end of and feel is, Insensitive and Offensive!

Authentic Self! Fearful of exploring a hugely insightful and courageous question! “Whose Life am I Living” Feeling a dis-connect in the deepest part of you. Navigating internal and external conflict and overwhelming behaviours experienced in relationship dynamics.

Co-dependency and learned behaviours.  Creating safe boundaries and remaining independent from the opinions and judgments of significant others.

Masks! Pretend to Protect! Wearing masks of pretence desperate to feel reassurance of lovability, visibility and approval.

Courageous conversations I would like to have had with others but did not have the courage to express my truth. All the un-sayable’s left unsaid!

Sharing how I experienced significant others, family and friends with “respect and appreciation” of their whole-hearted intentioned ways, how I often felt their ways “got in the way” and felt overwhelming for me to navigate.

The importance of seeking your own separate therapeutic support. Taking care of you, in your care of the other. You Matter! You also have your Story!

Autonomy!  Ensuring all family members and invested others feel safe, considered, included, listened to, heard, visible, valued and validated. All voices are worthy and deserving of a seat at the family table, all tables!

Empowering and supporting Parents, Families, Partners anxiously “Sitting in Wait” for their child, teenager, partner to be assessed.

Using the energy of your anger and frustration in an empowering way. Shifting from a reactive place to a pro-active place as you sit in wait. How your “presence to yourself” and “self-care” is the gateway to creating presence in the other under your care.

Your ability to self-regulate enables self-regulation in the other. Trusting your own capability and ability to create and sustain, safe nurturing and supportive relationships in a stressful home environment and reduce overwhelming behaviours.

Most Suffering Happens In Relationships,  All Healing Happens In The “Safety” Of  Relationships!

“YOU’VE GOT THIS”